Inspire to Change

Working to create healthier and safer relationships

  • Obsession
  • Control
  • Intimidation

OBSESSION

If you obsess over what your partner is doing, where they are and who they are with, this can be A SIGN OF DOMESTIC ABUSE

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CONTROL

If you control where your partner can go, who they can see, what they can buy or wear, this can be A SIGN OF DOMESTIC ABUSE

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INTIMIDATION

If you use threatening behaviour, lose your temper, throw objects, humiliate or dominate your partner, this can be A SIGN OF DOMESTIC ABUSE

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SIGNS OF OBSESSION

Do you think your partner is cheating on you because they speak to other people?

Do you check your partner's phone to see who they are talking to?

Do you find yourself thinking too much about what your partner may be doing?

Do you go through their purse or wallet?

Do you go through their pockets or their belongings?

Do you accuse them of things if they come home late?

Do you obsess over your partner's whereabouts?

SIGNS OF CONTROL

Do you smash your partner's phone regularly to stop them contacting people?

Do you control the money because you don’t trust your partner?

Do you make comments about what your partner can or can’t wear?

Do you tell what your partner what they can do?

Do you need to know where your partner is all the time?

Do you lock your partner out when they come home late?

Do you tell your partner who they can and can’t be friends with?

SIGNS OF INTIMIDATION

Do you argue with your partner when you’ve had a drink?

Do you say things to your partner to make them feel guilty?

Do you lose your temper with your partner when you get upset?

Do you smash pots and punch holes in the wall?

Do you say mean things to them such as “you look fat in that”?

Does your partner feel intimidated by you?

Do you scare your partner?

Does your partner flinch when you come near them or move suddenly?

Do your children start crying when you raise your voice?

Inspire to Change is a programme for men and women who have been abusive, controlling or violent towards their partner. The course combines learning and support tailored to an individual’s need. It is free for those who are motivated to make a change in their behaviour and work to improve their relationships.

About Inspire to Change

Inspire to Change has been designed to help participants learn new skills and find ways to manage and control their abusive behaviour. It encourages participants to think and behave more positively to prevent harm to their partner, children and family in the future.

Taking part in Inspire to Change gives participants:

  • an understanding of how to recognise the signs of domestic abuse
  • a better understanding of why they use violence or aggression in their relationships
  • an awareness of how attitudes and beliefs can affect behaviour
  • the practical tools to develop and maintain change
  • an improved and better life for themselves, their children and others affected by their behaviour

What to expect from Inspire to Change?

At the first appointment fully trained staff will meet with participants to develop their own personal Inspire to Change plan. This plan may include:

  • setting up one to one sessions
  • booking on a short respectful relationship course – a 12 session programme
  • taking part in a more intensive and in depth course called Building Better Relationships – a 30 session programme
  • participating in group work sessions

Once a personal plan has been agreed, staff will work closely with participants to ensure they feel comfortable and confident to take the next step in their Inspire to Change journey. Inspire to Change can also provide support and advice to help address wider issues linked to abusive behaviour such as addiction problems, debt and unemployment.

Suitability and Referrals

Inspire to Change is suitable for any person over the age of 16, who has been abusive in any type of relationship and who is concerned about their behaviour.

Referrals can be made by any professional working with an individual, partner or family and there are concerns about their abusive, controlling or violent behaviour. Self referrals can also be made.

How long will Inspire to Change take?

This will vary from person to person. Inspire to Change has been designed to be flexible around each individual’s need in terms of their work and day to day commitments, learning styles, locations and course delivery times. It also supports participants to work at their own pace to enable them to complete their individualised plan and successfully change their behaviour.

Who runs Inspire to Change?

Inspire to Change is a service run by South Yorkshire Community Rehabilitation Company. The company has a track record of working with people to help change their behaviour and improve the quality of life for everyone in the communities where it operates.

Inspire to change is funded by:
Barnsley Metropolitan Borough Council
Doncaster Metropolitan Borough Council
Rotherham Metropolitan Borough Council
Sheffield City Council
South Yorkshire Police and Crime Commissioner

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Inspire to Change locations

The Inspire to Change service is run from South Yorkshire CRC’s main offices, which are modern, welcoming and friendly spaces. Other community locations will be used as necessary to ensure Inspire to Change is accessible to all and tailored to individual need.

Barnsley
Unit 6, Churchfield Court
Barnsley
S70 2J

Doncaster
Church View Centre
Church View
Doncaster
DN1 1AF

Rotherham
Unit 5, Amberley Court
103 Effingham Street
Rotherham
S65 1BL

Sheffield
Unit 2, Hawke Street
Business Park
Sheffield
S9 2SU